Greek philosophers are known for their profound wisdom, and it was none other than Heraclitus who warned us that we could not step twice into the same river. Just like the waters of a river never stand still, life is in a constant state of change and no life experience can ever feel exactly the same even if you somehow manage to duplicate all its previous circumstantial parameters.
Yes, life is constantly marching on and we do our best to keep up with that existential flux. And, whenever we find ourselves moving from one home to another, then we are always reminded that the process of moving house is much more than just a simple relocation of cardboard boxes and furniture pieces from one place to another – that’s only the tip of the iceberg, isn’t it?
What about the submerged part of that iceberg that remains largely hidden until we choose to look harder? Moving house is also an emotional roller coaster, filled to the brim with bittersweet changes along the way.
If you’re facing a residential move anytime soon, then you should definitely be aware that moving to a new home does have the power to change lives for good. But how does moving change your life, you may wonder?
It’s what you leave behind
Moving out can change your life in more ways that you can imagine. And, as you can already suspect, the worst thing about moving house is what you leave behind. Or more precisely, who you leave behind. Your inability to take a favorite piece of furniture with you (Why not give it away or donate it?) cannot possibly compare to having to leave behind dear family members, good friends and sweet memories in your home, neighborhood or city.
Sometimes a decision to move away can be so tough! Long after the move is over, you may find yourself wondering if you did the right thing to leave your comfort zone in pursuit of whatever made you do it in the first place (Why do people move house?). Finding a better job, continuing one’s education, following a loved one, and wanting a fresh start are cited as the most common reasons for people to move home, but it’s the inability to part with your old life that could keep troubling you even after you seem to have already settled in your new home.
If you really want to move away and start over in a new place, then make sure you are ready to say goodbye to your friends and part with your home in such a way as to get that essential sense of closure that will enable you to cope better with the big changes ahead of you.
Moving can change your life, but that change should only be for the better, right?
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It’s the moving stress
It’s no secret that the process of moving from one home to another generates unhealthy levels of stress. And as you well know, stress can easily prove to have unwanted side effects on you and your family members – including your pets.
Now, if you succeed in keeping those stress levels within acceptable values, then you will be able to survive your relocation fairly unscathed. In the best case scenario, the pressure moments of having to deal with countless move-related jobs, including sorting and packing your stuff, looking for reputable movers and then arranging back your life upon arrival, will quickly fade away and open up a world of new possibilities.
Too much stress could introduce an undesirable change in your life, so it’s vital that you tackle the two most common stressing factors when moving out:
- Insufficient money. Should the numbers show that your budget won’t be enough to cover the moving expenses, then it’s only natural that you will stress yourself out while looking for a way out. Three possible solutions have the potential to get you back on track: 1) move fewer items to lower your relocation bill, 2) find yourself an affordable mover, and 3) sell unwanted stuff, either through a garage sale or online, to pocket some cash. Or, if at all possible, you can postpone your move until you’ve saved enough money.
- Insufficient time. If you know you’re behind your moving schedule and won’t finish all the tasks prior to moving day, then the thought alone of not meeting the deadline will put extra pressure on you. Put yourself under too much strain and things can quickly get out of control. This is why, proper time management is the right way to survive your house move. (How to make a moving timeline?)
It’s what’s waiting for you
Moving can change your life when you least expect it.
Having found the strength within yourself to say your goodbyes to the life you’re leaving behind, and then having breezed through alarming doses of relocation stress, you may think that the worst is already behind your back. Unfortunately, when it comes to moving to a new home, crossing the finish line does not make you a winner yet.
It’s one thing to have a perfectly normal fear of the unknown (How to cope with the fears of moving house?) – after all, your adaptive skills will be put to the test the moment you cross the threshold of your new apartment or house. But it will be a different battle altogether should you let yourself into the dangerous clutches of relocation depression (also known as separation anxiety).
In its essence, relocation depression is a strong sense of nostalgia for the life you’ve just lost as a result of your house move. Once you find yourself among piles and piles of cardboard boxes waiting to be unpacked, be on the lookout for common depression symptoms such as uncharacteristic sadness, excessive sleep, gloomy thoughts, reluctance to leave your home, unwillingness to socialize and perceptible apathy.
You’ve just experienced a major change in your life, so it’s okay to find it hard to get used to it all. If you’ve moved to a new city alone, then things will be even tougher for you. Ultimately, you should quit judging yourself too harshly and give yourself more time to adapt to all the changes around you.
However, if time isn’t helping you feel better, then read about other good ways to overcome relocation depression.
Moving out or running away?
It’s interesting how moving house changes you in ways you may not fully understand at first. After your residential move is complete, you may need some time to realize whether it was an instance of moving home or whether it was more an act of running away from something bad in your previous life chapter.
Moving out in order to run away will not change your life for the better simply because you’ve already brought along your extra baggage with you – your mind. If your mind won’t give you peace in one place, then you shouldn’t expect that moving to a new place will automatically solve the issues that are troubling you. In order to change the circumstances around you, the type of change you seek should first come within you.
Still, an abrupt change of scenery may be exactly what you need to unlock the power in your to work out your issues, and subsequently, change your life for the better.
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